11 Amazing Ways To Build a Christian Home

“Unless Christ builds the house, they labor in vain that build it.”

Do you want Christ to be in your home? Then you have to let Him build it.

Many people think having a Christian home means attending religious activities together, reading the Bible, and attending church. However, this is far from the truth because a godly home goes beyond religious activities and gatherings. A Christian home is built on Jesus Christ, and Jesus should be seen as the model for everyone in the family, including the parents.

The responsibility of a Christ-centered home lies in the hands of the parents, and like it or not, what you do, even to the smallest of attitudes, can ruin all your hard work. In this blog post, I’ll share tips you can use to raise the spiritual tempo of your home and instill godly fear in your children, bringing them up in the way of the Lord so they won’t depart from it.

• Related posts:
• How to Grow in Faith, Tips for Wives and Mothers
• 15 Fun Christian Toys and Games to Inspire your Kids
• 29 Sweet Christian Gift Ideas for Millennial Moms

What makes a Christian home?

A Christian home is a home where Christ is seen and felt. It is a home where worship and praise are natural speech, and members find joy in serving others. 

A Christian home goes beyond religious activities and evolves more around practical living of Christian principles and doctrines. It is more than a form of godliness, as it strives to create an atmosphere where the presence of God can thrive.

There is no exact definition of a Christian home, nor are there laid down rules or guidelines, but a Christian home is a Christian home because everything centers around Christ—by Him, for Him, and to Him.

Challenges often faced in Godly Parenting

As simple as it may sound, building a godly home and raising Christ-centered kids is not easy because the devil works tirelessly to entice and steal away the hearts of the little ones from Christ. He also tries his best to ensure there is no peace in the home and shift the parents’ focus to other matters.

Many challenges will arise when raising godly children; while some might be spiritual and common, others might be more peculiar to you and your family.

Regardless, most of the challenges faced by parents fall under these categories:

Time

Trying to balance work and family is one of the common challenges parents face, and they have to resort to spending more time at work and less at home. Having demanding jobs and responsibilities might steal the time you need to get closer to your kids and create a bond with them. 

Societal influence

The influence of society on a child is not to be underrated. School, friends, and media will expose them to different opinions and standpoints, which can make them waver from the things they have been taught at home and in church.

They also get exposed to conflicting Christian beliefs and so on.

Personality

Personality type, kid rebellion, and strong will are some of the challenges parents face when trying to raise their kids in a godly way.

How to build a Christian home

Building a Christian home isn’t only about talking about Jesus (Sunday School takes care of this); it is about integrating Christ in everything you do in your home.

Agree

Agree on the values and principles you want to uphold in your home with your spouse.

What kind of home do you want? How do you want to train your children? Talk about discipline, traditions, limits, and leisure. 

The Bible states, “Can two work together except they be agreed?”

Agree on those critical things to avoid a divided home.

Be an example

I think one of the things parents quickly forget is that children learn more from what they see than what you tell them. Kids will always try to imitate you, and sometimes it can be exciting to them, but it can quickly become a habit.

Teach your kids by doing. If you want them to love, you have to love. If you want them to pray, you have to pray. What you do as a parent becomes their definition of ‘normal.’

Have devotions together

Family devotions are just as important as personal ones. You want your child to understand and feel the joy of collective worship and fellowship.

Devotions can be a family routine, and you can find a way to include other activities. You can even have your children talk about what’s bothering them, their challenges with friendship, life, studies, etc.

You can then show them how to face these situations practically using the Bible as their guideline.

Create a spiritual tradition

Spiritual traditions closely knit the family together to the extent that you all become spiritually aligned with each other. It builds the spiritual intimacy between every member that you become each other’s keepers. 

Spiritual traditions can be as simple as singing a particular worship song or praying for each other on a specific day.

You can even have traditions promoting love, like exchanging gifts, because love itself is spiritual.

Traditions should reflect the core value you want to teach your kids. It is what they’ll grow up with, and to do it right is the goal.

Practice biblical principles

As much as you read the Bible together and learn about love, honor, respect, selflessness, temperance, and other fruit and principles, they also need to know how to practice them.

Practically, realistically, and maybe creatively, teach your family how to uphold biblical principles.

Go to church

Teach your children the importance of fellowship with like-minded people.

You can also create an after-church activity where you talk about the things you learned, and you can teach and show them how to use those teachings in everyday life.

This way, it’s more than just a ritual; you also get to teach your kids good church conduct and ethics. 

Encourage personal growth

As often as you encourage collective fellowship, you should also promote personal fellowship. Teach your children how to hear God for themselves, grow in faith, love, and revere God.

This will help them grow spiritually and create a spiritual foundation for them.

To build a Christian home is to make God (God-life) in your children and your spouse.

Be open about your faith

Be open and expressive about your faith when you’re with your kids. Not only sharing the successes but also the failures, so you don’t create an environment where it seems like making a mistake is forbidden.

I have seen families where the kids are scared to speak out because they fear judgment. 

Let your children understand that life takes you through turns, and sometimes your faith isn’t always strong. Help them learn to find strength from weakness and not allow the devil to exploit them.

Talk about life

The truth is that no matter how much training you give your kids, it will come to a stage where they will develop their mindsets and get exposed to external influence.

The world is complex and secular, and as such, there is no deliberate consciousness of Christ on the streets.

Create time to talk and connect with your children so you can get an insight into their influences and changing mindsets. This helps you to know what to correct and how to do it.

Take inventory & discuss

Ask questions. Track their spiritual temperatures and have heart-to-heart discussions with your kids and spouse.

Is there any challenge they can’t say? Do they have something bothering their minds? Have they fallen into sin? 

Watch out for each other and be able to advise, encourage, and rebuke in love and honor.

Pray!

The bulk of building a Christian home lies in the hands of the woman. I like to view women as partners with God because God entrusts the making of a home (temple) to us.

Most of the work lies on your knees. Having to deliberately commit your husband and children into God’s hands, determining and being sensitive to detect the devil’s wiles in your home, and sending the devil out of your home are some of the background prayer work to help build and strengthen your home.

Pray, pray, and keep praying.

Let’s Recap

Having a Christian home is not only about the activities but mainly about the actions. Anyone can go to church, but not everyone understands the joy in it. If you have a Christian home, Christianity becomes more of a lifestyle than a religion for you and your kids. This kind of lifestyle becomes the ‘normal’ of your home and shapes how the beginning of your children’s lives will be.

Another thing I’d like to say before I conclude is that building a Christian home takes intentionality, patience, prayer, and a lot of faith! The devil is not sleeping, and if he can’t get you at home, he’ll try to get you outside of the home. So, take your lifestyle with you everywhere you go, including when driving.

How have you been teaching your kids about God? What is the spiritual tempo of your home, and how much of an effect do you think it has on your kid(s)? Let me know in the comments below.

READ ALSO: Best Daily Morning Devotional books for kids

If you’ve made it this far, I want to thank you for sticking around and reading this post. Leave a comment below to let me know you stopped by. Please be sure to like, pin, and share this post as well! Your support means everything! If you’ve enjoyed this post and want to see more like it, or receive a short weekly devotional, be sure to subscribe to my newsletter below!